THERE ARE NO ORDINARY MOMENTS!
I took this picture today of our daughter Sarina on her morning walk. She has struggled lately with a lot of things, not getting up and in turn not having time to walk is a big one for her.
This was her first walk for a few weeks.
Everyone benefits from walking. In Sarina’s life attention and present moment awareness go hand in hand with the rhythm of walking. And the deeper breath. One cannot walk up a hill with the head in the clouds. She has to pay attention to her steps. Easy? Not when you have severe attention deficit.
But – and that’s a hard truth, if she’s not self-motivated, it’s not happening. Her life becomes an obstacle course against time. I have seen this truth but have to surrender to the fact that she is now 28 and I can’t win every battle. Believe me I try!
I have no choice but to let go. It’s a difficult ride for me. I keep failing every day and I keep going. And keep learning.
“Acceptance is a small, quiet room,” says Cheryl Strayed.
So, this was heaven for me! One moment that has the power to erase a chain of frustrations in my life as a special needs parent.
As I watched her hike up the hill, the sky and the trees were hugging her and I thought: There are no ordinary moments. *
It's easy to agree in a situation like this. Not so when beauty is absent, and we are hitting a wall.
Many people live with limitations. Some visible some not. The path of a special parent is humbling like for all care takers. Decline of health or depression to name a few also put the breaks on.
Special needs parenting is a life sentence. It’s not going to go away. We can fall into victim mode or learn to ride our horse instead.
This week I’ll pin this photo on my desk. Relax the grip, breathe, accept and honor the present moment. Want to join? Print the photo or write yourself a note. It works.
👣 No time for a walk?
Here is a Tiny Island** about a one-minute practice you can do on the spot including sitting down. If you can’t move, visualize yourself doing it.
CONNECTING BREATH WITH MOVEMENT
NO ORDINARY MOMENTS!
You can do this also in gentle running. The key is… do it! Enjoy it! Be grateful to your body moving and breathing.
PS: *Dan Millmann wrote a book called "No Ordinary Moments". It's a peaceful warrior's guide to daily life. I love this book like all of the books he wrote. It teaches us to live a life that puts you in the driver's seat.
PPS: **Tiny Islands is a project I’m working on. To create more breaks, or even micro breaks in my day to fill up my cup. Using the tools from my yoga practice and life with my special daughter I’m collecting THREE-HUNDRED AND SIXTY-FIVE, yes 365 of them! And share them in a book with you. 2019 hear me roar😇.
PPPS: Remember... forgive yourself and everyone...
Manuela Rohr is a writer and Yoga teacher/therapist BDY/EYU, C-IAYT. With roots in Germany she now lives with her husband and daughter in Santa Rosa, CA. She is the mother of a micro preemie girl and shares her healing journey in her blogs and teachings. She shares her transformational Yoga and Mindfulness lessons in workshops and private sessions.